2023 is a Wrap: Not Sorry To See It Go!

Last January I hosted a free vision board workshop, a first for my business but I thought it important to be a vessel to those who wanted to set their intention for 2023. To my surprise, it was well received and I even had one person from Israel participate for a private session.

Even though it is called a Vision Board Workshop, the goal is to set your intentions for the new year. One of the tools that I pass on is the document that allows you to look back at the previous year and plan for the new year. This is a document created by Year Compass. You can download it here.

Last year I looked back on 2022 and created my intentions for 2023. Now setting intentions does not cast them in concrete, you are planning from what you have when you set them so they can change and more than likely will be adjusted. My intentions had a lot to do with my business but also my goal for last year was to pass my wellness board exam which I did in July.

What I did not plan for and never would have anticipated was that the second half of my year would put all my intentions for 2023 on hold.

On June 15th, my sister suffered a stroke which days later we found out was as a result of an incurable brain tumor. For the last 6 months of this year, I have either traveled the hour and a half from my home to my sisters or have stayed at her home to help my brother in law with her care and to support him.

I made a decision to put my business on hold until the beginning of 2024 to focus solely on my sister and also our dad who has Alzheimers. I wanted to be present for my clients and knew I could not be, with all that was on my plate.

I have also had the time to take a look at my business and make some decisions on what I wanted to focus on going forward. My passion still remains with women in midlife and menopause as well as preventing type 2 diabetes and heart health. These topics are near and dear to me but with all that has happened in the last 6 months, I wanted to be able to keep serving even when unexpected things happen. You will see more group coaching opportunities, online courses, and memberships in the weeks to come.

In the last 6 months, I was able to do some reflecting and focus on my mental health. I started back going to therapy to help with some of the tough feelings I was having and to gain some tools to move forward with all that is on my plate. I have a great support system at home and without them, this would be tougher than it already is.

Again, this year, I am hosting a vision board workshop on Sunday, January 7th at 3:00 pm to help set those intentions to come up with a road map into 2024. If you are planner and need goals and intentions to move your needle day to day, month to month, this free workshop is for you. Sign up here.

Lastly, this last week of the year is a great time to reflect on one word or mantra that you want to take into 2024. Sometimes if you have something (a word or mantra) to ground you it is easier to move forward when you feel stuck.

I wish you all the happiest of new years!

Asking for Help!

I became a wellness coach to help people navigate their wellbeing which is not just losing weight but total wellness. What I do not do is therapy. We are trained to recognize when coaching is moving in to the client needing therapy and when to refer them to a therapist. Just recently, I had to coach myself and realize that I needed something more than the training I have gotten.

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November is National Diabetes Awareness Month

When I first started thinking about being a wellness coach, I wanted to help whoever I can to lose weight and to help prevent diabetes,

My mother had Type 1 diabetes and I saw what she went though just to live her daily life and from everything I knew, it was not preventable but Type 2 diabetes is. I wanted to help as many women as I could to prevent this disease.

As I began to learn more, I decided to sign up for a certification from the CDC for a Diabetes Prevention Program Lifestyle Coach. Once I got my certification, I was able to add this to my business as a year long course to help those with pre-diabetes, have had gestational diabetes while pregnant, and those who are at risk for getting type 2 diabetes. My next year long class starts January 6, 2024.

The theme for this year is Take Charge Of Tomorrow: Preventing Diabetes Health Problems. This is so important for women in midlife and going through menopause because diabetes and heart disease show up at this time of our lives.

Almost 80% of our population who are pre-diabetic do not even know they are. The first sign is when they have symptoms of Type 2 diabetes and their A1C (a commonly used blood test to diagnose pre-diabetes and diabetes) is in the diabetes range.

The best way to prevent type 2 diabetes is to eat healthy, exercise and avoid stress. What you eat is very important to having an A!C reading in the correct range. And getting the proper amount of exercise helps with weight loss and stress.

The first step in preventing diabetes or reversing Type 2 diabetes if you already are there is to know your numbers. Have you doctor run the test to see what your A1C is and start there. Once you know where you are, learn more about how to either prevent Type 2 diabetes or reverse it.

Go to this link to see if you are at risk for pre- diabetes.

Like this year’s theme says, Take Charge Of Tomorrow!

The Therapeutic Power of Journaling for Women in Menopause

Menopause is a significant phase in a woman's life, marked by a variety of physical and emotional changes. Journaling, the practice of putting thoughts and feelings onto paper, has proven to be a powerful tool that can greatly benefit women during this transitional period. In this article, we explore how journaling can offer support, self-discovery, and empowerment to women navigating the challenges of menopause.

  1. Emotional Outlet: Menopause often brings a rollercoaster of emotions, from mood swings and anxiety to sadness and frustration. Journaling provides a safe space for women to express and release these feelings, allowing them to process their emotions and gain a deeper understanding of what they're experiencing.

  2. Self-Reflection: Through journaling, women in menopause can reflect on their thoughts and experiences. This self-reflection fosters personal growth, enabling them to identify patterns, triggers, and coping mechanisms. By gaining insight into their emotional responses, women can make more informed decisions and manage their emotions more effectively.

  3. Hormonal Changes: The hormonal fluctuations associated with menopause can sometimes lead to feelings of confusion and irritability. Journaling can help women track these changes and notice connections between their mood, physical symptoms, and the various stages of their menstrual cycle, allowing for better self-care strategies.

  4. Communication with Healthcare Providers: Maintaining a journal of symptoms and emotions related to menopause can be incredibly useful during healthcare appointments. The detailed information recorded can assist medical professionals in providing more tailored advice, treatment options, and interventions to address specific concerns.

  5. Empowerment: Journaling empowers women in menopause to take control of their own narratives. It provides a platform for setting goals, monitoring progress, and celebrating achievements. By documenting their journey, women can boost their self-confidence and sense of accomplishment during a time that might otherwise feel uncertain.

  6. Mindfulness and Stress Reduction: The act of journaling encourages mindfulness, allowing women to be present in the moment and focus on their thoughts and feelings. This practice reduces stress and promotes relaxation, which is particularly beneficial for managing symptoms like hot flashes and sleep disturbances.

  7. Creative Outlet: Journaling is not limited to just writing; it can involve doodling, sketching, or even pasting in photos or mementos. Engaging in creative activities within a journal can be a fun and fulfilling way for women to express themselves, boosting their overall well-being.

As women go through the complex journey of menopause, journaling emerges as a powerful and accessible tool to help them navigate the challenges. From providing emotional release and self-reflection to empowering women and enhancing their communication with healthcare providers, journaling offers a holistic approach to managing the physical and emotional changes that come with this life stage. By embracing the therapeutic benefits of journaling, women in menopause can find strength, self-awareness, and a sense of control in the midst of change.


Understanding Your Personal Summer!

I was so excited to see a super bowl ad that talked about menopause!

It was the talk of us menopause warriors internet posts. If you happened to see it, the topic was Vasomotor Symptoms (VMS) or more commonly known as Hot Flashes/Flushes.

 Hot flashes are the most common bothersome symptom of menopause. Your hot flashes may occur during the day or at night (also known as night sweats). Your hot flashes may be mild and tolerable, moderate and troublesome, or severe and debilitating. Hot flashes get better with time. Although most women have hot flashes for a few years, some women have them for decades. It is not known why some women have severe hot flashes for many years while others have no hot flashes or mild ones that resolve quickly. If your hot flashes are mild or moderate, you may find relief by changing your lifestyle. If you have severe hot flashes, you may still benefit from lifestyle changes, but also may choose to take a nonprescription remedy or a prescription medication, including hormones to help you manage your symptoms.

 What do hot flashes feel like?

The severity with which you experience a hot flush varies from woman to woman but they are commonly described as a feeling of intense heat that can creep throughout your whole body but is often concentrated through your head, neck and chest. Many women say they feel like an internal fire has started inside them. Others liken it to the kind of intense heat you feel when lying on a sunbed or going into a sauna. This can, unsurprisingly, lead to profuse sweating and may be accompanied by heart palpitations and/or feelings of anxiety.

 How long do hot flashes last?

The whole flash episode can last a matter of minutes (the average is four) but it often feels like longer. They can occur every few hours to a couple of times a week. They may also potentially last for years after your periods have stopped.

 Hot flashes are categorized by severity:

 Mild

You’re hot, but at least you’re not sweating.

Moderate

You’re hot and starting to sweat, but you can keep going.

Severe

When you’re so hot and sweaty, you literally have to stop what you’re doing.

 Here's what's causing Your Hot Flashes

 VMS originates in a part of your brain called the hypothalamus, which regulates your body's temperature.

  • It's here that specific neurons called KNDY (pronounced can*dee) neurons play an important role in temperature control.

  • To keep your internal thermostat in check, your body relies on having a balance between estrogen and a brain chemical called NKB.

  • During menopause, levels of estrogen and NKB become unbalanced. This causes the KNDy neurons in your hypothalamus to tell your body you’re hot when you’re not.

  • To cool down, your hypothalamus triggers hot flashes and night sweats.

  • To keep your internal thermostat in check, your body relies on having a balance between estrogen and a brain chemical called NKB.

 Nonprescription remedies

 Nonprescription remedies you may consider for hot flash relief include

  • Soy: Eat one or two servings of soy foods daily (containing isoflavones), such as low-fat varieties of tofu, tempeh, soymilk, or roasted soy nuts. Supplements containing soy isoflavones, such as Promensil, reduce hot flashes in some studies.

  • Herbs: Supplements containing certain herbs like black cohosh,  such as Remifemin, . decrease hot flashes in some studies.

My gynecologists suggested Relizen when I first told him about my hot flashes. I took the supplement for the recommended 3 months feeling lesser and lesser hot flashes throughout and but he third month, I had none.I continued taking them for about a year and decided to stop to see if my hot flashes would return and I have yet to have another one. Now that was my experience and your's may be different.

 Prescription therapies

 The most effective way to treat symptoms of the perimenopause and menopause is to replace the hormones that your body is no longer producing. Taking HRT also has health benefits - as women who take it have a lower future risk of developing conditions including heart disease, osteoporosis, diabetes, depression and dementia in the future.

 HRT is a hormone treatment that includes the hormones estrogen, often progestogen and in some cases testosterone.

Estrogen - This replacement estrogen can be given to your body in various ways - either as a skin patch, as a gel or a spray, or as a tablet that you swallow. 

Progestogen - If you still have a uterus (womb), then you will need to take a progestogen alongside the estrogen - this is known as combined HRT. Taking estrogen on its own can thicken the lining of the womb and increase the risk of uterine cancer; taking a progestogen keeps the lining thin and reverses this risk. 

Testosterone - For women who still experience symptoms such as fatigue, brain fog and lack of libido after taking estrogen for a few months, testosterone can be beneficial (in addition to the estrogen) to bring about further improvements of these particular symptoms. 

 What are the benefits of HRT?

 Your symptoms will improve – most women feel a return of their ‘old self’ within 3-6 months of starting HRT. Your risk of developing osteoporosis will reduce – your bones will be protected from weakening due to lack of estrogen.

 Your risk of cardiovascular disease will reduce – you will be less likely to develop heart problems, stroke or vascular dementia.

 Your risk of other diseases will reduce - women who take HRT also have a lower future risk of type 2 diabetes, osteoarthritis, bowel cancer, and depression.

*I do not personally have experience with HRT. What I know is through research.  Schedule time with your gynecologist to discuss what works for you.

 What are the risks?

 For the majority of women who start taking HRT under 60, the benefits outweigh the risks.
There are two small risks for some women who take HRT - the risk of breast cancer and the risk of a blood clot.

 Taking combined HRT (estrogen and progestogen), may be associated with a small risk of developing breast cancer however some studies show this risk is reduced if progesterone is used. The risk of breast cancer with any type of HRT is low; for comparison, the risk of breast cancer is greater in a woman who is obese or who drinks a moderate amount of alcohol.

 If a woman has a history of blood clots, liver disease or migraine, there is a small risk of a clotting if taking the tablet form of estrogen, but taking it through the skin as a patch, gel or spray does not have these risks so is safe for these women.

 What are the side effects of HRT?

Side effects with HRT are uncommon but might include breast tenderness or bleeding. If they do occur, they usually happen within the first few months of taking HRT and then settle with time as your body adjusts to taking the hormones.

 When is the best time to start taking HRT?

 HRT is most effective to start when you are perimenopausal – this is before your official ‘menopause’ – which is 12 months after your last period. This means you don’t have to wait for your periods to stop before starting HRT. Your first step should be talking to a health professional about the options available to you. Don’t wait until symptoms become unmanageable before you seek advice. The most health benefits from taking HRT are in women who start taking HRT within 10 years of their menopause but usually women of any age can start taking HRT.

  Variety of factors that increase or decrease the risk of vasomotor symptoms:

  • Ethnicity: African American women report the longest duration of hot flashes-an average eleven years or more. Japanese American and Chinese American women five to six years, and White and Hispanic women are in between.

  • Social Determinants of Health: Poverty, lower level of education, and adverse childhood experiences are all linked with an increased risk.  Adverse childhood experiences can cause permanent structural changes to the brain that could make the brain more vulnerable to the process that triggers hot flashes.

  • Smoking: Current or former smokers have a longer duration of hot flashes.

  • Mental Health: Stress, depression, and anxiety increase the risk.

  • Alcohol: Light drinking may reduce hot flashes, but heavier drinking has the opposite effect.

  • Caffeine: Coffee, tea, and other drinks or food containing caffeine can trigger hot flashes for some women.

  • Anxiety: Women with high levels of anxiety are more likely to experience hot flashes. Anxiety can also mimic hot flashes. Many of the symptoms are identical, for example, palpitations and sweating, and to make things more complex women can feel anxious during hot flashes.

Lifestyle changes

 Staying cool and reducing stress are the principal lifestyle changes to treat your hot flashes. Some women can find relief with these options:

 

  • Avoid warm rooms, hot drinks, hot foods, alcohol, caffeine, excess stress, and cigarette smoking. Wear layers of clothing made from light, breathable fabrics, removing a layer or two when you’re hot and replacing them when you’re cooler. Cooling products, including sprays, and gels,may be helpful.

  • To reduce stress and promote more restful sleep, exercise regularly, but not too close to bedtime. Meditation, yoga, qigong, tai chi, biofeedback, acupuncture, or massage also will lower your stress levels.

  • When a hot flash is starting, try “paced respiration”—slow, deep, abdominal breathing, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Breathe only 5 to 7 times per minute, much more slowly than usual.

  • Try different strategies to stay cool while sleeping. Dress in light, breathable nightclothes. Use layered bedding that can be easily removed during the night. Cool down with a bedside fan. Keep a frozen cold pack or bag of frozen peas under your pillow, and turn the pillow often so that your head is always resting on a cool surface. If you wake at night, sip cool water. Try different techniques for getting back to sleep, such as meditation, paced respiration, or getting out of bed and reading until you become sleepy.

  • Women who are overweight have more hot flashes, so maintain a healthy weight and exercise regularly to decrease bothersome hot flashes and improve your overall health.

Although hot flashes are the most commonly reported symptom of menopause, it is not the only symptom. There are 33 more symptoms that can happen during menopause. Click here to get a symptom chart to help you identify and daily chart the symptoms you may be experiencing. 

 

Resources: The menopause manifesto~Dr. Jen Gunter, whatsvms.com, menopause.org

 

 

Changing The Narrative

I read an article not too long ago about changing the narrative as we get older. The article pointed out we sometimes have a memory of a time or place and it is all we have and we think that is all there will be. But, being in the same place making new memories may be the way to go.

For the last couple of weeks, my sister and I have taken on the task of starting to clean out and clear up my dad’s home. He has Alzheimers and is in an adult family home that takes care of Alzheimers patients. To say that I do not have great memories in this home is an understatement. My dad has lived here for quite a long time. We live in different states across the country and I did not always visit him by choice. We did not have that kind of relationship. When he had an accident and broke his hip 3 years ago in the state I live in not his, visiting him in the hospital shed a light on his dementia and that there were changes that my sister and I needed to make to ensure he was safe not only in his home but from those who prey on older folks like him. I made up for all those visits I did not make when my sister and I took turns staying with him for months at a time while he healed from his broken hip and figuring out what is next for him with his now confirmed Alzheimers diagnosis.

To say the time with him was a miserable existence was an understatement. Picture this, here is someone who has lived by himself and independently for many many years who now has his youngest child in his home doling out medication, fixing meals, reminding him to change clothes and bathe, taking over his monthly bills, etc…Oh did I mention he is a retired army colonel…yes that too. He would ask me daily when I was going home and didn’t my husband and dog miss me . Coming back here to take on the task of cleaning out his home was not something I looked forward to.

My dad kept everything sometime in duplicate and triplicate. If you know anything about Alzheimers, there is a certain hoarding factor that happens with the disease so we needed to go through everything piece by piece. There are things that are familiar and things that surprised us. There were things that brought me to tears. This is only the first pass, there will be many more weeks of sorting through things and making decisions. For my mental health, I needed to find a way to change the narrative from “ I hate this place” to “I am greatful and honored to be able to take care of my dad’s possessions”. Total transparency here…I am not there yet because there is so much stuff but what helped me even think about changing the narrative was my daughter’s take on the house she has so many good memories with her grandfather. Every treasure she found was Christmas Day. Every reminder of her time here would bring a smile. She did not have the experiences I did here and I am grateful she did not.

Finally, in the article, it gave some suggestions on ways to change the narrative. One rang true for me. It said to laugh in a place you may have previously cried . I can say I have laughed while here and it does feel different. If nothing else, its a start.